My new commitment to blogging daily has kicked off and today I wanted to start with Men’s Issues Mondays. “Well Eriche, that’s a weird way to start off a week of feminist blogging,” you might say. And I agree. I wish it weren’t this way, but I didn’t choose “Men” and “Monday” to both start with the letter “M”, so here we are.
As promised, I’ll be trying to stick to different themes on each day and I will try to keep up daily short posts as long as humanly possible. This should be a fun challenge!
So, here are my themes:
- Men’s Issues Monday
- LGBT Tuesday
- Women’s Wednesday
- Ableism & Feminism Thursday
- Race & Class Friday
These may not make a lot of sense to you, but they make sense to me and help me to categorize my thinking so that I can write something that’s clear, concise and interesting to you. So this has been a long preamble before the actual topic of this post which is…
Men in feminism?
I am no longer interested in trying to educate men about feminism. Period. The men’s issues section of this blog is intended to help women think about patriarchy, how it impacts men, and is more of a guide for how women should approach discussing men’s issues without dismissing the ways that patriarchy primarily impacts women.
This is especially important in the Caribbean where at every opportunity women RUSH to prove that they “don’t hate men” or that people “discriminate against fathers“. Aren’t there bigger problems on our hands than wondering how we can cater to men’s feelings at every opportunity?
This push to ameliorate men’s feelings at every turn is actively drawing attention away from women’s issues that are ignored completely. People are more concerned about “father’s getting a bad reputation” for example than they are concerned with the fact that many fathers mistreat and abuse people to get this bad reputation.
Our culture is 100% centered around men’s feelings and comforts at every turn. There’s no room to center men in Caribbean feminism if we ever want to have an effective women’s movement that liberates women from patriarchal oppression. Men’s issues Monday is for us to discuss how we relate to men within feminism, what issues are worth dissecting and how we should fight our instincts to center men in every single conversation.
Caribbean men’s issues are often forced into the center of our dialogue by gas-lighting men who pretend that single incidents (mostly perpetrated by men) are supposed to take center stage over centuries of women’s global oppression. We would do our best to ignore these narcissistic misogynists who foam at the mouth to prove the non-existence of women’s oppression and instead focus on how we can effect communal and structural change for West Indian women.