Friday: Top 10 Lessons for Creatives from Rebel Without A Crew by Robert Rodriguez

This week, I finished reading Robert Rodriguez’s book Rebel Without A Crew. I loved his diary and a lot of the ideas and mindset he espoused before his big success. My top 10 takeaways from the book about living successfully as a creative are as follows:

  • Have a “do or die” attitude about your creative pursuits.

  • Creating mediocre work to completion is better than having something “perfect” and half finished.

  • Sometimes what may look like a missed opportunity and massive disappointment is only preparation for greater success down the line.

  • Once you stop learning, growing, and practicing, you’re finished.

  • When you need to be creative in order to survive, you won’t make as many excuses, you’ll find solutions instead

  • Trust your instincts about people, about projects and about your own capabilities.

  • Push your limits, try new things and engage in huge projects that challenge you.

  • Ignore the naysayers — completely. Even if you “prove them wrong”, they’ll never be satisfied.

  • You can be poor and still find a way to create, grow and achieve success.

  • Sometimes a small budget is better than a big budget because you’re forced to find creative solutions and you trim the fat a lot.

  • Learn as many skills as you can in your field. You never know which may come in handy.

There’s so much more to say about the book, but I left feeling positive psychology was greatly reinforced after I completed the book. It’s been a goal of mine since 2018 to write a screenplay (I’ve been waiting for some specific life events to move out of the way) and I can’t wait to get started!

What creative pursuits have you worked on recently? Do any of these points resonate with you? Comment whichever resonates with you the most down below.

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Thursday: ❌ Thoughts On Boundaries 💭

Like most of my Thursday posts, this one will have a less formal structure even if I’m talking about a BIG topic which women everywhere can stand to improve on — yes even me. Saddle up divas and hustlers, we’re going to learn why our boundaries suck and how we can fix this so that we can:

  • Get what we want

  • Feel less guilty

  • Gain confidence in sticking up for ourselves

OK, let’s get started. 💖

  • I talked about this in my assertiveness blog post but boundaries aren’t a zero sum game. You can have great boundaries with friends but let your partner get away with murder. How do you identify your weak spots?

  • Recognize that there are six different boundary types: spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, material & sexual. You may have stronger boundaries in one area than in another…

  • Boundaries are often conflated with being “mean” or “bitchy”. If you think “no” is a bad word, you may have trouble setting boundaries and if you don’t change that, making progress on your boundaries will be difficult.

  • One thing that will guarantee you suffer from poor boundaries is not knowing what you want. As a woman, you want to be crystal clear on what you want so that anything that doesn’t match up with the way you deserve to be treated gets eliminated from your life. This includes how you treat yourself. Poor boundaries can mean treating yourself poorly too.

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Wednesday: Quick Daily Report

I know when you start blogging for “real” it helps to make what you post relevant, interesting and helpful to complete strangers, but I want to document a little bit of what’s happening in my life for the sake of keeping it all together.

  • This weekend I didn’t work on my long-form blog post the way I planned because I decided to read the last 300 pages of War And Peace and actually finish the book. I liked the book, although if you’re looking for the excitement and tone of a John Grisham, you won’t find it here.

  • I started reading Rebel Without A Crew, the story of director Robert Rodriguez who created the films El Mariachi as well as Once Upon A Time In Mexico. His grit, drive and mindset are setting me right this week.

  • I did some work over the weekend, which I hate doing typically, but I just started on my next science fiction release for work.

  • I started watching Doctor Who season 1 again starting Chris Eccleston and Billie Piper. I’ve yet to meet an artist with the name Billie who I don’t love.

  • I’m starting to worry about my ability to keep up with the production schedule for this blog. It’s not so much that this is the most important thing going on for me right now. It’s just that I have high hopes for the future of this blog and the idea that I can miss a day and not write what I’ve been meaning to write makes me feel guilty.

  • I’m nervous about “oversharing” and posting to social media. I feel it’s okay to acknowledge these anxieties. I don’t love sharing personal information, and I’m quite closed off. Writing is my vehicle for freeing my overactive mind and sharing that process in any respect can be terrifying.

I know this quick daily report focused a bit on my fears and struggles, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed that if you’re reading this, you can relate too. Comment down below if you’re nervous about a creative project of yours or if you have been in the past! 👇🏼 I’m sure that I’m not alone in this one…

Tuesday: Top 5 Trends That Will Be Embarrassing In Five Years

Remember low-rose pants? Apple bottom jeans? The courage of Uggs and the infuriatingly damp and stinky knock offs that ensued? Crackle nail polish? If you do remember, I bet you’re desperate to forget or at least cringing internally at all the clothes you wore that you wouldn’t be caught dead wearing today. That’s the problem with trendy style vs classic style… trends come and they go and they keep you chasing after an ideal intended to remain unattainable.

Here are my predictions for the top 5 trends we are going to loathe in a few years that are dangerously popular right now…

1) Overly sculpted eyebrows — my least favorite trend by far. I thought over plucked eyebrows were rough but these... Their days are numbered.

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2) The “ugly but cute” sneaker trend — I actually don’t always hate this trend, but I don’t think it’s going to last either. Most ugly sneakers are ugly and once the shiny glow of a new item wears off, I bet most get shoved to the back of the closet.

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3) T-shirts with “cute” phrases — your sense of humor isn’t as evergreen as you might think. While some shirts like this are tasteful, fun and you might get a lot of wear out of them, others are clearly not going to make it into 2021.

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4) Over-lined lips — this particular beauty mishap seems to only afflict a certain group of people but at some point overlining your lips looks foolish and everyone can tell. I’m not really in favor of anything that “alters” your natural features, especially when it does a piss poor job.

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5) Fanny packs/bum bags — give it a rest, they’re never coming back. I’ll never know why these made a comeback, but just like they went out of style before and looked totally dated, the same will happen again. The double G won’t make a difference. Not to mention they’re bulky, impractical and remind me of my father’s fashion sense. Hard pass.

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Do you agree with this list or do you think I’m totally out of line? What fashion trends do you want to see die a miserable death? Comment down below. 👇🏼

Monday: 7 Assertiveness Tips For Women

Many women struggle with assertiveness. In the patriarchal society that we live in, women smother their needs in favor of more passive and less effective forms of communication. When “niceness” is a greater priority than confidence, honesty and directness, it’s no wonder women struggle with standing up for themselves when the time comes.

We all do this in some way or another and assertiveness exists on a spectrum. You might feel assertive with your family but not your friends, with your friends but not your partner. These tips can help you bring a little bit more directness to your interpersonal relationships…

1) Face problems right away

The longer you wait before approaching someone with an issue, the more time you have to get in your own head, lose track of the details and build up a lot of excuses for not taking the direct and assertive approach. Deal with issues in the moment they happen to you. If someone says something inappropriate, you may be tempted to stew before approaching them. The assertive approach involves dealing with the problem right away before there’s any bad blood.

2) Get your facts straight

One of the best ways to improve your assertiveness skills is to feel confident in what you are saying. Stick to the facts of a situation rather than character attacks. Of course, your feelings are important too but when you know exactly what you want, sticking to the facts of the situation makes speaking up for yourself easier. When no one can cast doubt about a series of events or your feelings about those events, you can better assert your needs in a situation.

3) Know what you want

This is an addendum to the second point. You have to know what you want not just as it pertains to a situation but in general. You decide what kind of treatment you will accept. When you know what you want, you can ask for it in a clear and direct manner.

4) Practice assertiveness

As with any skill, you can improve your assertiveness through practice. Start small. Do you struggle to send drinks back when someone makes you the wrong order? Start there. Find the easiest place to make improvements in your assertiveness and start there.

5) Identify your weaker spots

Once you start practicing assertiveness you will realize where you are incredible at sticking up for yourself and where you need a ton of help. Start noting moments where you have been successfully assertive and areas where you wish you stood up for yourself. What pattern do you see? Find your weaker spots and give those areas extra attention.

6) Eliminate black and white thinking

There is no one who is 100% assertive or 100% a doormat. This isn’t a zero sum game! Stop thinking of yourself as either one or the other. Assertiveness is an ongoing process and it takes time. If you fear “backsliding” or making mistakes this can slow down your progress. Assertiveness takes time and it takes practice. You don’t have to be perfect to consider yourself a strong, assertive woman, even if you’ve made mistakes in the past.

7) Surround yourself with assertive women

Are you surrounded by people who guilt trip you into being “nice” as opposed to supporting your growth as a person? Many of us have friends who encourage us to “take the high road” and enforce the notion that a woman standing up for herself is akin to a cardinal sin. Sometimes, you have to switch up your friend group. No, I’m not saying dump all your old friends. Simply add a few more positive relationships to the mix by interacting with women who support your journey to become more assertive and to express your needs. You shouldn’t be afraid of judgment from your closest friends, so if you need to, surround yourself with women who understand how important assertiveness is for all women to become truly empowered.

When was the last time you wished you were more assertive but it didn’t work out? Can you remember any thoughts that went through your head? Comment down below if you can. Every comment matters because it’s an opportunity to spark conversation and discussion.

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Sunday: 10 Ways To Get Over Your Fear Of Writing Fiction

The difference between an “aspiring” writer and a writer is that fear consumes an “aspiring” writer, but a writer has the courage to face that fear.

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Becoming a writer doesn’t happen overnight nor is it a fixed state of being. Becoming a writer happens every time you decide to put a pen to paper. You get to decide how often that is. Of course, writing can be scary and these ten tIps represent more practical advice that can help you shed your fear of fiction and become the writer you have always wanted to be!

1) Embrace First Drafts

Divorce your fear of sucking really badly. There’s nothing morally or ethically wrong with writing something bad. I do it all the time. I once wrote a haiku so bad that when I read it out loud to myself, I cried. Yup, you can do that and still be a writer. If you embrace first drafts and accept that writing is the easiest thing in the world to correct over and over again, you’ll be on your way. Think about it, a surgeon doesn’t get a chance to say “oopsie!” when they’ve made a mistake. The consequences for writing am embarrassing poem, haiku or novel are way less serious than what a surgeon faces for possible mistakes. Once you embrace first drafts, you can rewrite to your hearts content.

2) Storytelling is the most natural form of communication

Telling a story, whether fiction or non-fiction is the most natural thing in the world. Human beings have been telling stories for ages and because of that, we have a lot of practice before we ever put fingers to keyboard. If you’re afraid of writing, think about this. You’ve probably already told hundreds if not thousands of stories. You’ve watched movies. You have read books. All of this has been quiet preparation for writing! You’re more prepared than you think.

3) You can learn to write better

Your skill as a writer isn’t fixed. In Stephen King’s On Writing, he claims that anyone can become a good writer but not everyone can become great. I wholeheartedly disagree. All the “great” writers have something in common. Even if some may have started writing early on in their lives, they went through a process of learning and educating themselves to write better. No baby is born knowing how to speak or write, yet most of us can. We have a strong capacity for learning, but to learn, you need to put that first word down.

4) Read Fiction (read whatever you want to write)

Reading is the best way to feel comfortable with writing. The more you read and the more you write, the less fearful you will become over time. You gain confidence by getting to the place where you believe “I could write something like this” or “I want to write something like this”. Your perspective broadens when you read which is why reading is so important!

5) Put your fears into context

This is a little tip that I’ve borrowed and rewritten from my experiences in therapy and this helps reduce anxious thinking and fear in other contexts. When you fear failure from writing, much of this fear is due to something called a “cognitive distortion” where you assume a worst case scenario with no evidence that the worst case scenario is going to happen. Long story short, if you’re fearful of writing, are you thinking of the worst case scenario? Chances are this worst case scenario isn’t what’s going to happen and you can prove it to yourself by playing out the most likely scenario in your head. For example, I may be afraid to write a haiku because it would be “so horrible” and embarrass me. The reality was I did write a horrible haiku but then nothing happened… I deleted the haiku and poof! It was gone. The worst case scenario didn’t get a chance to happen and this is most likely the case. Plus, what if the best case scenario happened? Why don’t we give that a chance for a change.

6) Make practice the goal

Our fears bubble to the surface when we set unrealistic goals. If you’ve never written a novel before why is your goal to be on the New York Times bestseller list? Faulty goal setting is a clever way of setting yourself up for failure where your faulty thinking is then used as external justification for why you never finish projects. A better goal for writers is to set a goal of showing up and writing. Don’t fuss about writing the next War & Peace. I’m reading it now, and it’s not that amazing anyway. Set the goal to show up every day and write. See how the habit becomes easier and before you know it, your fear evaporates.

7) Write with less pressure

I’ve touched on this in previous points but it’s important to create an environment where you aren’t facing negative pressure. As a professional writer, I can tell you that this is a total luxury, but if you aren’t a professional, it’s a luxury you may be able to afford. Your writing doesn’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to fuss over every word. Write without an editor in the back of your mind. This editor slows you down, is often too critical, and prevents you from doing the work that needs to be done.

8) Seek feedback

This is a tricky one for me since in my opinion, not all feedback is created equal. In a day and age where people gain social capital from “dragging” others, many believe that “constructive criticism” is tearing someone down but keeping a smile on your face. Seeking feedback from those closest to you can be excessively obsequious and writers can sense phony positivity about their work. The best feedback comes from publishing your work and allowing the public to decide where they fall. There are many ways to get published. Putting yourself out there will build confidence and reduce your fear of writing over time.

9) Identify as a successful writer

I won’t apologize for how “airy-fairy” this seems because this tip actually works. Stop seeing yourself as someone “aspiring” and lurking in the shadows. Don’t go overboard with this, but slowly build your confidence by becoming an author in both spirit and practice.

10) Make the process pleasurable

The final tip is a no brainer, but too many associate writing with pain. Yes, Ernest Hemingway allegedly said to “write drunk and edit sober” but he also shot himself, so clearly the man wasn’t infallible. Writing brings me the greatest joy out of anything in my life. Even if at times I think I “suck” at writing, you would be surprised at how easy that feeling is to temper when you’re enjoying what you’re doing. Even the worst person in bed still enjoys sex.

If you can put these ten unusual tips to practice, I think you’ll have a blast and get one step closer to shedding that pesky fear of failure and disappointment.

What are your biggest fears about writing? ✍🏽 Did I miss anything? Comment down below and let me know. Since I’m just starting out on this blog every comment helps me out. Put your thoughts down below and let’s chit chat. I’m excited to help! 👇🏼

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Saturday: Assertiveness & Conflict

Women are trained from early in life to avoid conflict. We are the ones who make peace, the ones most often tasked with forgiveness. The labor of virtue falls on women while men, who are still upheld as more virtuous since Eve are the apple and all that, are allowed the freedom to leave that box of politeness and engage in both assertiveness and conflict.

Despite our conditioning, women must survive in a world where a lack of assertiveness can kill you. Just read The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker for first hand examples of assertiveness saving women’s lives while “politeness” and a fear of being disliked became some women’s undoing.

I would love to live in a world where women didn’t have to expand a Herculean amount of effort not to get trampled on. Yet that’s not the world we live in…

Where can women draw the line between assertiveness and aggression? Should our primary concerns be drawing this line at all before we have achieved our full potential of assertiveness?

Being a strong and assertive woman comes with so many labels. One of my favorite women who speaks about some of these labels is Tabatha Coffey, celebrity hair stylist and entrepreneur who has reclaimed the word “BITCH” which has been weaponized against her in a male dominated world. Her philosophy is that a part of assertiveness is being unapologetic about who you are.

If women spent more time asserting ourselves instead of hiding our needs and fearing being disliked, would our lives be any different? Would your life be different? Assertiveness saves women’s lives. Assertiveness empowers women in a real way to take control of our lives and embody the true strength which comes from self-efficacy in looking after your own interests.

Are you an assertive person? What scares you most about being assertive? Drop a comment down below. Seriously, every comment makes a difference and I want to hear your thoughts. Don’t worry about having something “good enough” to say, your opinion is enough.

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Friday: The Biggest Lie About Working From Home

When you tell people you work from home, you get one of two reactions.

1. “Oh that’s nice” AKA “I’m so sorry you’re broke.”

This reaction can come from your family members or complete strangers. People fundamentally misunderstand that working at home is an actual job. We usually have an office, we work eight hours a day and often longer. We have a harder time balancing work and life outside of it since they all bleed together. And no, we aren’t broke. 

2. “It’s so nice that you can afford to stay at home” AKA “It’s so nice that you can afford to stay at home and do nothing”

This reaction presumes that when you work from home, you are actually having a big old party all day long. While working from home does have some benefits and may feel like quite the party for introverts, it’s far from “doing nothing”. Not everyone who works from home is doing it simply because they’re so loaded that they can afford to.

These two common misconceptions both play into the #1 biggest lie about working from home:

Working from home is easier (and you should feel bad about that). 

It would be a total lie to claim that working from home is always easy or that it’s always hard. Some weeks, I pull unhealthy shifts and I obsess over work constantly. Some weeks, I can finish my work before noon and spend the afternoon continuing my education for my career or just enjoying the natural beauty of the island that I live on.

The truth is, working from home can be a lot harder than otherwise because usually…

1. You’re your own boss

You don’t have anyone to tell you what to do or when to do it. There’s no one to supervise you and make sure you’re staying on task. If you make a mistake, there’s no one to swoop in and help you fix it. You’re all on your own. While this can be pleasant and preferred for introverts and those who work best in solitude, this solitude comes with some downsides. You absorb all the negative consequences of risks that you may take, poor decisions or simply bad luck. Being your own boss isn’t only about keeping yourself in check and reaping rewards. There are very real, negative consequences that you can face.

2. You’re scarily good at pretending you’re not working when you really are

I can’t tell you the number of times I will “sneak work” outside of work hours. I mean, it’s easy when my work is on my cellphone and on my laptop, neither of which leave my side. It’s so simple for me to check my work Instagram and justify it by saying “Instagram isn’t really work”. Hint: If you’re looking at analytics of any kind, you might just be working. The boundaries between work and relaxation are so thin that sometimes you feel like there’s something wrong with your obsession. A lot of entrepreneurs glamorize this, but I want to acknowledge how unhealthy this behavior is! When you work from home you can fall into this trap and since you’re your own boss, it can be harder to get out of. (Which boss doesn’t try to sneak in extra over time?) 

3. You struggle with perfectionism

This isn’t specifically caused by working from home but it’s something I’ve noticed in a lot of millennials who work from home. We struggle with perfectionism. We put off new projects and we reject new ideas if we think they don’t measure up to what our idea of “perfect” is. Given that online spaces are so prone to comparison, we may spend an excessive amount of time comparing ourselves to our “#goals” on social media. This struggle with perfectionism may pay off in some ways. This means we are usually high achievers and our work reflects that. However, our perfectionism can mostly be negative as it leads to excessive self-criticism, stymies our creativity and can hack away at our self-esteem. 
4. You (might) struggle with a social life

When you work at home, your routine tends to revolve around your home. You have no commute, you don’t stop in at the coffee shop on the way to work and you technically don’t have to leave the house thanks to Amazon Prime. The downside to this is the intense cabin fever you can get from staying “locked up” in your office. Socializing doesn’t happen unless you make it happen and making it happen takes an extra effort. I’ll have to be honest, this can be a major struggle for me. I have seen in a lot of online communities for people who work at home that many struggle with the same thing. 

It’s not all fun and games and while working at home has many rewards for me including flexibility of work hours, flexibility to travel, flexibility with my time off and an income that allows me to enjoy all of that and more, I do want to acknowledge some of the difficulties that people who work from home face. Not all of us are rich and not all of us have it easy. Most of us are just working with a vision and a dream and we will fight as hard as we can to make that dream come true.

What about you? Do you work from home and experience any of these struggles? Comment down below if you’ve shared in this experience. PIN this post to share with friends, family and relatives who need a little more education about what it truly means to work at home.

Thursday: Thoughts & Questions On Internet “Activism”

Why oh why did I create a new Twitter account? I used to go days and even weeks without a hint of awareness of “What Y’all Mad About Today” ™️. In an effort to spread the good word about my blog revival, I’ve been indoctrinated once again into the cult of Internet outrage, mad for the sake of mad, or the more delightful alternative — mad at everyone for being mad all the time.

Perhaps it’s a delusion that I fall into the latter category and not the first.

(Let me cook!)

Today I want to compile some thoughts about Internet activism, so buckle up. Comment down below which of these you think I could turn to long-form analytical blog posts please. 😊👇🏼

💖THURSDAY QUESTIONS💖

  • Why are sex & dating the primary fields of our lives where online activism is centered? And, why does class analysis not seem to apply? With regards to gender, race and sexuality, is it honest to say that sex/dating/relationships are where this oppression plays out the most?

  • Many daily arguments on social media can be easily solved by falling back on your culture’s specific etiquette and/or accepting others differences. I follow a lot of etiquette experts on social media and books on etiquette are $7.99 on Amazon. Stop arguing and realize the decisions have been made! If you don’t want to follow what is appropriate, it’s your right, but just know that the standard has been set.

  • Many leftist theoreticians warned against a cult of personality as being dangerous to progressive movements. Yet, it’s rare you hear people who make progressive posts and have a large following publicly acknowledge this. Personal branding — by definition capitalistic — becomes intertwined with activism and creates an unhealthy dynamic around interacting with progressive ideas and values.

  • Social media has many negative effects and currently, we aren’t sure how to cope with all of them since it’s all new. I can’t Help but wonder how our technology use might change to become healthier or less healthy over time. What do you think?

Getting back on social media has brought these questions to mind. What about you? What have you been thinking of lately? Leave a comment below .

Wednesday: My Remote Work Routine - 5 Tips For Digital Nomad Productivity

I travel back and forth between the United States and St. Lucia a few times a year and in the past two years I’ve been to Martinique and Barbados during times when I’ve also had to work. Since I’m a full-time writer and I run my business from home, I’m a kind of “digital nomad” so my office comes with me wherever I go.

I have five tips for remote work that I always incorporate into my remote work routine when my office is on the road…

1) Noise-cancelling headphones

These are a must for traveling and working since you can turn any environment into a workspace and really get into the zone. I also use noise-cancelling headphones to wear on airplanes, and for help falling asleep. Currently, I’m using this brand of PLT headphones which work really nicely and can transition from wired to wireless so even if you lose your charge, you can still use them. The only thing I don’t love about them is the fact that I need an adapter for my iPhone but it’s a minor issue. I’ve tried a lot of Bluetooth headphones in the past and these have the greatest range by far out of any cheaper options I’ve tried.

2) Schedule work that doesn’t require an internet connection

This tip I don’t use within the United States as much, but when I work on flights or when I go to countries with notoriously bad internet connections (like Martinique!) I plan ahead this way too. Since as a full-time writer I balance writing 3-5k words a day with marketing and social media tasks that require an internet connection, I use this to my advantage. Before I travel, I schedule all my social media posts and emails so I can focus on writing the old school way — just a word processor, no internet connection.

3) Book a place with dedicated workspace

I have had some great workspaces in my recent trips, including a Capitol Hill studio in Washington DC as well as a my brief one night stay in the Crystal City Hilton. I require a table for focused work and I make it a priority to book a place that’s business friendly. Traveling is usually business related, and I rarely stop working when I am traveling, so it’s a priority to have a dedicated space. Working from couches or from bed really throws me off so I avoid that if possible.

4) Pick optimal work hours for the situation

I prefer working a typical work day, but on the road I have to be discerning about when I get my work done. If fitting 6-7 hours of creative work is impossible, I hit at least 4. If I’m visiting night owls, I schedule my hours in the morning as usual so I can go out at night. If I’m on a family related trip, or traveling with my fiancé, I schedule later hours to accomplish daytime activities. Just because I’m working during the trip doesn’t mean I have to miss out on enjoying the blessings and opportunities traveling has to offer. Making adjustments to my schedule sets me up for success.

5) Plan activities outside of work to look forward to

I always plan something to look forward to whether I’m traveling to Upstate NY or Martinique. I can’t focus on work 100% of the time and balance is so important to me. I always plan specific activities I can get excited about and “work for” during my trips. I like doing this because it keeps me focused and working on a tight schedule with greater efficiency.

The great thing about my remote work routine is that none of it is rocket science. Simple changes make a big difference and these easy adjustments allow me to enjoy both work and travel when I am working and traveling.

Do you ever work when you travel? Let me know in the comments. Pin the image below to save these remote work tips to your favorite board for travel and entrepreneurship. 👇🏼

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Sunday: Weekly Favorites, Top Upcoming Feminist Topics & Inspirational Quote

My Sunday goal today is to create rather than consume and so far, I’ve been doing a great job, even if my attempts to keep busy have taken some sharp turns. I’ve decided to make the most out of my bed rest, and doing so requires more mental discipline than I could have imagined.

Today, rather than a long form blog post, I want to create a little list of my “intriguing Sunday thoughts” that I’ll edit throughout the day and publish at the end.

Thank you for following my blog — my next long-form post on feminism and social media will be live on July 7th so mark your calendars!

✅WEEKLY FAVORITES✅

  • Top Spotify Playlist This Week | New Music Friday France [x]

  • Top YouTube Video | How I Post To Instagram (Ninja Secrets): [x]

  • Reading: How Essential Oils Became The Cure For Our Age of Anxiety (The New Yorker) | [x]

💖PERSONAL NOTES 📝

  • Today I’m brainstorming blog post ideas for the future and already fearful about getting into fiction writing again. I write fiction full time but it’s not particularly literary. I am interested in writing something different and seeing how it goes.

  • Why is there the idea that what you consume dictates your politics? I wrote about this today for next week’s blog post in case I don’t develop my ideas for the second post well enough by July 7th.

  • I’ve been reading a lot about MLM and different pyramid schemes that unfairly target and prey upon women. It’s chilling how the arguments that MLMs use can sometimes mimic feminist “empowering” language. In next week’s post, I will be exploring this idea as it applies to consumption in general.

  • Yesterday I read an article in The Cut about babe.net which forced me to think about many feminist topics that I have yet to discuss but you can guarantee I’ll talk about in the coming months: how a misogynist culture has weaponized sex positivity against women, why dogma has become more important than intellectual rigor, and how unprofessional workplaces and unsafe environments for women have become taboo to speak out against. So much to explore here!

💡FOOD FOR THOUGHT🥡

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“If you don’t make time for your illness you’ll be forced to make time for your wellness” — author unknown

“If you don’t make time for your illness you’ll be forced to make time for your wellness” — author unknown

Saturday: The Aspiring Buddhist And The Broken Toe

Last week Sunday, shortly after seven in the morning, I started my morning with three piercing shrieks, loud enough that my neighbors should have been alarmed. They weren’t, but that’s okay. I’m not that good of a neighbor. Right in the midst of my quarter life crisis, I smashed my toe against our dining table and broke it. Badly. I’m still on bed rest. The great thing about staying in bed all day is all the time you get to think. Just kidding, it’s absolutely horrible and the last thing anyone experiencing existential dread wants to deal with. But I’m here, in bed, and forced to face the “quarter life crisis” fears that I’ve been desperate to ignore.

You’ve won this round, universe.

I have been inundated with this sense that I am not “doing enough” since I turned 25. It’s a mixture of millennial angst gone malignant and run-of-the-mill perfectionism. I fear that I have wasted some of my “best” years and that from this moment on, my value as a human being can only go down hill. It sounds horrible, but how many time have women heard negative messages about aging with regards to their value? I think while I recognize this isn’t healthy, these kinds of thoughts are expected with the societal conditioning we all go through.

Achievement is one of the ways we have come to see ourself as “valuable” in our society that’s prioritized the person as a brand rather than a human being. Still, it’s our responsibility to take control of the little voice in the back of our heads that says we lose our value after a certain point or that links our value to achievements. We are people and our value is inherent in that fact. Age and achievement have nothing to do with it.

I have fully accepted that my daily actions create the person I want to become. Wishing and dreaming are powerless tools of distraction from our current situation, and dreams may be powerful motivators but daily action is what really defines “who we are”. I had the misfortune of breaking my toe shortly after getting back into a more intense exercise routine since my last yoga practice in May. I was BACK! At least, I was back until my giant metal table leapt out of nowhere and smashed my toe to bits. Since then, guilt over losing my routine has all but stopped me from sleeping. I worry that I will never get back into my routine and I feel depressed that I “lost” my progress.

This view is completely wrong. While my routine may currently be stymied, my core identity as someone committed to looking after my health doesn’t have to change as a result. James Clear expands on this kind of thinking in his book, Atomic Habits. When the goal is just showing up every day, it’s okay to miss a few days. As soon as I can, I’ll show up and I’ll be well on my way to building up some of the strength I’ve lost from perpetual bed rest.

Thinking of myself as a “failure” for not exercising with a broken bone never has to enter the picture.

I have to let go of what I can’t control. This idea is nice in theory and in theory, most people think they believe this. Of course we have to let go! In practice, it’s not so easy. If it were, people wouldn’t be hung up on ex-relationships. People wouldn’t try to change their parents or their friends if this was the most intuitive thing in the world. The best thing about a surprise broken bone is that now I have no choice. I can’t control the fact that I haven’t been able to get upstairs all week. I can’t control the fact that getting to the bathroom is a Herculean effort that makes me feel like a retiree.

Despite the obviously sucky parts of life trapped in bed, I’m grateful that I have this chance to give up control and I am grateful that I have enough time to contemplate my life that I can turn around the negativity that might seem natural when a table takes away two weeks or more of your mobility.

When I was younger, we used to play this game called “two truths and a lie”, where you would say one thing that was a lie and two things about yourself that were true. The other players guess which statement was which. One of my truths used to be “I’ve never broken a bone” which at the time seemed unrealistic. I now have the chance to come full circle, and make that statement one of my lies if I ever choose to play this game again.

My new “truth” is, I’m glad I broke my toe because while it hurt like hell, I’ve had an opportunity to contemplate the thoughts that have bothered me since I turned 25.